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Setting a Good Example for My Son

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From TabithaJohnson

Updated October 15, 2010

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Setting a Good Example for My Son

Tabitha and her husband

My life as a smoker

I started smoking a couple years after my mother was diagnosed with cancer. I am the second oldest child in the family, and had all the stress with no help from my older sister.

One day I was venting about how stressed I was about going to school, working, and helping to take care of my dying mother (I was 17), when my friend asked me if I wanted a cigarette. I looked at him and said "Hell no!", but truthfully, I was thinking about it, so I took one from him. In some way, it seemed to help, but still wasn't what I was looking for.

Soon, I was smoking three packs a day by myself to cope. I know when I have a habit that's not good, I always find a way to stop.

Why and how I quit smoking

I got pregnant by my (now) husband so my mother could see her first grandchild before she died. I quit smoking...but four months after my son was born, I started up again from all the stress and pressure.

When my son was almost a year old I stopped smoking -- that was in March of 2009. What drove me was to be a better role model / influence for my son; I didn't want him to see me smoking. Besides, taking all things into account like living a healthier life, not giving my son asthma from secondhand smoke, not running out of breath when playing with him, etc. I love my healthier smoke-free life. I wouldn't give it up for anything.

Advice

  • Challenge yourself to be the best you can be, a non-smoker.
  • Think of what type of influence you are for your children; how important are they to you?
  • Replace your smoking habit with something healthy, like exercise.
  • Think about how long you want to live; do you want to see your great grand children grow up?
  • Do you really want to look 10 years older than you actually are?
  • Women age faster than men, cigarette smoking only increases your age. It doesn't slow it down.

Terry Martin, Smoking Cessation Guide, says:

Such wise words from someone so young! Congratulations on your success with smoking cessation, Tabitha. You are setting a wonderful example for your son! Quitting tobacco puts us in touch with our inner strength and helps us realize that we are capable of so much more than we often think. The sky is the limit for you - go out and live each smoke-free day with purpose!

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